Let me preface this article by stating that I am, in fact, female (and a liberated one at that). I am NOT slamming feminists or feminism as a whole, but rather noting some strange trends by some women these days who claim to be feminists. The women in question are, often young, idealists who, in many ways, are doing more harm than good to the feminist movement.
If you peruse any self-identified feminist space on the internet, you will find words and phrases such as “triggering”, “slut-shaming”, “girl-on-girl hate” etc. One word these women are constantly spewing is “empowerment”. What’s especially funny about this is that never have I ever encountered such a group of people who cling to “victim” status.
Many of these modern day feminists are quick to cry out “misogyny” the moment anyone has an issue with a person who happens to be female. They frequently blast other women for “girl-on-girl hate” just because a woman has the gall to criticize one of their “sisters”. I find this way of thinking utterly ridiculous. Since when does feminism mean that women are infallible creatures worthy of nothing but praise? I have always thought being a feminist meant lobbying for equality. Equality does NOT mean that you can say or do anything without being held accountable. Equality means you will be held to the same standards and outcome as everyone else. Now you are telling me that you should be treated differently because you are female?
“Trigger” or “triggering”. This is the cry of outrage in response to, well, pretty much anything. A “trigger” refers to a picture or words that “trigger” a negative memory/experience in the reader. Common themes are sexual assault, eating disorders, domestic abuse etc. Instead of scrolling past, closing the website or dealing with it like an adult, they will screech indignantly about it being “triggering” and demand that the offending sentence/picture be removed. I don’t understand how these women can function in the real world, where nobody really gives a fuck about their feelings. Because nothing says empowerment like being a thin-skinned perpetual victim.
Were you aware that taking off your clothes for the sexual pleasure of men was empowering? Neither did I. That’s what many of these feminists will have you believe. While I don’t think it should be a stigma for a woman to keep food on the table, I fail to see how stripping is an “empowering” career move. This includes “burlesque”, which is mistakenly thought of as “empowering” because many of the women are overweight and not terribly attractive. Instead of trying to make it some ridiculous political statement, why can’t you just admit that you (a) need the cash (b) are an exhibitionist, or (c) you mistakenly rely on male attention to validate your attractiveness? You’ll just have to trust me on the fact that the men in the audience are not picking up on the feminism. Oh well, what can you expect from women who on one hand claim to be against the sexual objectification of women while simultaneously engaging in “rape fantasies”. (I was pretty surprised to discover the amount of feminists who confess to having rape-fantasies.)
“Slut-shaming” is a feminist jab at people who look down upon women for expressing their sexuality. While I do think there is certainly a valid point about the double-standards society has towards women’s sexuality, this is another overused term. Some ladies seem to think that guzzling back liters of sperm and taking as much dick as they can until they are verging on prolapse is pretty feminist. They call it being a “pro-sex” feminist. If you do anything but high-five them, they will accuse you of “slut-shaming”. Rampant promiscuity is pretty nasty regardless of gender. I am not making a moral judgement here, I just think both genders (and genders in between or what have you) should be concerned about sexually transmitted infections and diseases.
The problem with a lot of these “modern feminists” is the lack of logic and the constant knee-jerk reactions. The issues they bring up are definitely valid and the terms that they use they DO actually have a place, yet the constant overuse of them constitutes a “boy who cried wolf” situation where they eventually lose their meaning. These women eventually become a shrill caricature of themselves and it becomes very hard to take them seriously.
Or, am I just “blaming the victim”?